Routine is shunned by many people, especially those who thrive on thrills and adventure. They may complain that routine is a cousin of boredom, while life should be exciting. They find that life is dulled with the sharp poison of dreary routine. Although I understand their point of view, I do not think they are doing routine justice.
Everyday life does not need to be boring. When you have routine you have structure and when you have structure your life is given stability. And most people prefer order over chaos; order is grasped more easily, and it creates a zone of comfort because of its predictability. A business organization without structure, for example, would not provide many benefits and for your business to succeed, you would have to cross the hills and valleys of routine first.
The same applies to jobs in general. Most jobs are exciting at first, but lose their glamor after a while. When your job has become routine, it also means that you have probably become comfortable in and with it. You have learned the ropes and believe that you have enough experience to get the job done. At the same time, provided your job is worthwhile, you will be given an opportunity of stable income and possibly pension and so on. In other words, it would be a job with a future.
When it comes to relationships, routine happens when you have been and lived together for a sustained period of time. Then the “magic” of love gives way to the comfort of routine. You know your partner well enough, know what ticks them off, what pleases them most and how they react under certain circumstances. You lose out on the excitement of figuring it all out because you have already been together for enough time to know each other really, almost too, well. Of course, you will still be occasionally taken aback by an unexpected action or reaction, but, all in all, your partner becomes predictable like an open book.
This is the time when many of us – men - may get cold feet and run away. It is the fear of commitment because with it come not only stability but also routine. Many fear that routine in a relationship will kill love and drown excitement. But I think all that happens is that your relationship reaches the next level. It becomes companionship.
Other dimensions are added to love; in other words, you are moving across stages. It does not necessary mean that one is better than another, but it is a period of growth, the same way we move from adolescence to adulthood. Getting stuck or choosing to remain in one stage does nobody a service, and it is self-deceptive.
Despite its obvious disadvantages, routine has important things to offer in life. Comfort and stability are only two aspects, and it may be time for those who dread their routine to “give routine a chance” and change their mind and opinion about it and embrace it as a necessary, perhaps even unexpectedly pleasant, part of life.