One
evening after a few beers (I only had two or three), my German friend
and I were on our way back to our respective abodes when out of
nowhere we stumbled upon a man lying in the middle of the pavement.
His eyes were open and my immediate thought was that he must have
been drunk, or rather, beyond drunk.
My
second reaction was to walk past him and not get involved. One of my
maxims in life is the philosophy of non-interference. Unlike many
others, I do not like to play police and at the same time I do not
wish to interfere with other people's business, that is, as long as I
do not see it as necessary to intervene in that particular situation.
By necessary I mean where my non-interference or lack of action might
cause significant additional harm to the person involved, and it does not put myself or a loved one in danger.
In
other words, if I see somebody being attacked, I would most
definitely not get involved unless somebody I know was mixed up in
it. Even then it would become hazy: How close is my relationship to
that person and how grave was the danger etc. The only time I would
mindlessly or instinctively jump into the fray would be if a close
family member was involved, for example, my son or my wife.
Contrary
to my hesitance, my German friend, who had had about the same, if not
slightly more, drinks to his name, usually tends to interfere in almost all types of situations. So he asked this man who had his belly visibly
protruding from under his T-shirt, why he was lying there on the
pavement. It was then we also noticed a couple of (unopened but
clearly dent) cans scattered around his immobile body.
This
man explained in somewhat blurry words that he had been punched by
somebody very hard in the face and that, as a result, he found
himself on the ground. This was worrisome. My friend wondered if the
man knew the assailant; to this our guy claimed that it had happened
on a very random basis.
Notwithstanding
this situation (which probably was not true as we could not make out
visible bruises on the face of the self-proclaimed victim), my friend
told him that this was no good reason to continue lying in such a way
on the pavement, and he asked him, where he lived. The stranger told
us his apartment was merely a couple of blocks from where we found
ourselves and that his girl-friend was supposedly waiting for him.
My
friend asked him if he could walk, and the man told us he was not
sure. He would get dizzy when he gets up, he confided. So my friend
decided to hail him a cab, but first helped him up. Our guy seemed a
bit shaky on his legs, as predicted by himself, and so we quickly
turned to scout for a taxi. And then we heard a boom, and turned
around in fear.
Our
guy had indeed lost his balance falling uncontrollably backwards; to
our horror in his fall his head hit the side of the pavement, while
his body was spread on the side of the street amid oncoming traffic.
This is when I felt seriously worried and suggested to my friend to
call for an ambulance.
In
the meantime, an Irish couple from the other side of the street had
seen the fall and ran over to help us out. With the sudden appearance
of another couple of curious but helpful guys, we managed to gently
pull this man onto the pavement again, while one of the guys was
redirecting traffic all the while. It was still not too dark at the
time.
The
hospital was about two and a half blocks from the scene of the
incident, so we were positive they would arrive soon. Thank goodness
our guy was conscious and breathing and could still communicate with
us. Suddenly, a car stopped and a young man approached and started to
bend over this man asking him questions.
I
was impressed with the outpouring support and aid in this situation,
but found it strange why this young man was asking our guy all those
questions. One of the other bystanders asked him if he was a doctor,
and he affirmed. He had pulled over when he saw the man and was examining him. By the looks of it, our guy despite his two falls
seemed to be coherent enough.
He
told us again about his girlfriend, so we collectively decided to
give her a call. Our guy could not remember her or rather his own
home phone number, but we managed to find her on the contact list,
and the doctor talked to her explaining the situation, while my
German friend was explaining the 911 operators the situation, and I
was telling other questioning passersby what was happening here.
The
Irish couple had also witnessed the fall, and we all agreed that
paramedics ought to be able to help him and take him to the hospital
for a check-up. We had to wait longer than anticipated, especially
considering the lack of distance between our place and the hospital,
a mere two blocks, until the ambulance finally appeared with flashing
sirens, and we waved them frantically in our direction.
To
our surprise, we encountered two young women. The doctor told our guy
on the ground that there were two young women ready to take care of
him now and decided that his presence was not needed any more. He,
however, first shared with the two female paramedics his findings as a
doctor and then dismissed himself. We thanked him collectively and
greatly appreciated his help and input.
The
paramedics started asking our guy questions and checked the back of
his head with a special light. It was bleeding. One of the paramedics
asked our guy if he wanted to go to the hospital, but he said no. We
said that we considered it a better option for them to take him there
for a quick check-up, as the fall, at least the second one we had
witnessed, did not look good at all.
And
then to our shock the other paramedic told us that they could not do
that. It was against the law to take someone to the hospital against
their will. It seemed like a bad joke, except that it was neither
funny nor a joke. Their powers in this situation were limited and
their hands bound. But he is in a confused state; he is not in his right
mind to decide what would be the best thing to do, and he should be
taken to the hospital for precautionary observation and care.
No
use. There was nothing anybody could do in this situation, and it all
depended on his shaky shoulders. Did we know him? No, we had found
him in this state here. And then suddenly, out of nowhere, a group of
Asians, who seemed language students, walked by and recognized him,
and he recognized them, and the paramedics asked whether they could
take charge of him.
They
said yes and that they could drive him home in their car. Did they
have drinks that night, and the Asians said no, and before we knew it, they were
taking him to their car. We decided that our presence was futile and
that we had done our duty, or at least my friend had, while I had
been assisting him in my own manner. This whole event had taken about
half an hour in total.
As
we walked back home, we found that the Irish couple had the same
path, so we could not help marveling about the event together. They
claimed that in their country a person who had sustained a
potentially serious injury would be taken to the hospital, regardless
of their own views on the matter. They would be then released the
next day if everything turned out to be fine.
To
me, this seemed also the best and most logical way of doing things.
For example, if a person has a stroke or a heart attack in public, but
does not want to go to hospital, simply because they feel they are
fine or they think they are all right or they are suffering from
confusion, then paramedics should be given the right to override the
patient's wishes and take them to the hospital in the best interest
of the person.
Sure,
there could be potential abuses or perhaps misunderstandings, but I
would rather err on the side of caution. Whatever happened to our
guy, I do not dare to ask. What if he did not even make it to the
next day? All because of a clause protecting one's human rights at
the expense of one's life. The right to life and treatment should
override all the other petty issues.
What
is the procedure when somebody gets stabbed or shot? If they choose
not to be taken away, do the paramedics also obey? In our case, they
had witnesses and the man was bleeding at the back of his head. Did
he need to be unconscious for them to treat him or would they wait
until he wakes up so he can give them the thumbs up that he is OK and
then walk back home? Incidentally, the paramedics said that all they
could do was ask for a police car to give this man a ride back home. I
see little use in that except the assurance that he got home all
right. But what happens after that?
So
I ask myself, are we taking our human rights too far? The question is
evidently rhetorical in nature. In a country where you can choose to
have children not vaccinated because of your personal beliefs (hence endangering not only your children's lives but also other children around you) we have seen more than the usual number of
outbreaks in especially richer neighborhoods.
This
is not because of a lack of knowledge or availability, but because we
may have too much of either. More importantly, our government is
tiptoeing around the so-called private citizen rights of the
individual. There is also the recent issue, at least in Canada,
whether women are allowed to wear the niqab not only in public but
also in governmental institutions and during citizenship oaths.
Now
I do not want to enter into this particularly sensitive domain, nor
mean to tread on anybody's toes, and far be it from me to give right
to the conservative right in our country, but it seems odd that
there are most likely millions of women who feel forced and who under
the threat of penalty of law and severe punishment must be wearing
those garments, only to find people who insist on them in a country
that gives them the freedom to wear what they please.
We
have gotten so entrenched in the human rights of individuals that we do not
see when they are taken away from us, like the controversial anti-terrorism bill or other laws supposedly meant to make us safer but
which end up restricting us in our movements. For example, our
scientists have been restricted in their research and are not allowed
to voice their opinions in a free and democratic manner. And in times
of war, criticizing the efforts or the allies has been often
interpreted as anti-patriotic or treasonous.
I
wonder why this emphasis on individual rights is so pronounced in North America and not so in
Europe, which has endured major wars and catastrophes in its wake and
history. My only possible answer is that North America is the place
where immigrants sought freedom from ideological restraints and
religious persecutions. Those who settled here wanted to have a fresh new
start in which rights would be enshrined in a new and shiny
constitution, in which everyone would be deemed equal.
In
that sense, in terms of liberty and freedom, North America was miles
ahead of its mainland counterparts. However, that did not stop its
people from engaging in slavery and horrible atrocities to its
African citizens in the US, nor its illegal camps of Japanese people
or its unfair and illegal treatment, via head taxes and other means, of its
Chinese residents in Canada. It seems that rights are accepted but
only of a limited part of the populace. Hence, in theory people are
equal but in practice there are significant shades of differences
there.
This
is worrisome. Too many rights have convoluted us and have taken away
our sight. We cannot see the essential, or as they say, we cannot make out the
forest for the trees. It is great to have rights, but we also need
to respect those of others. At the same time, laws should be also
based on common sense and on the particularities of the situation.This would make, in my view, the right to own guns in this day and age both dangerous and counterproductive.
Our
guy should have, under the circumstances, had his rights waived for
his own best interest and safety. And we need to ensure that people's
rights are respected, but at the same time, make sure that we are not
handing them over to the government, nor do we want to be abusing the many benefits
freedom and democracy bestow upon us. At least, all of this would be
of importance if
we are indeed and truly living in a state of freedom and democracy.
But some things are, as they say, better left unsaid.