Schools and Parental Choices during Covid-19: Interview with Carew Papritz

This week, I had both the opportunity and pleasure to podcast with award-winning author as well as educational thought leader Carew Papritz on various topics related to the pandemic but our main focus was on the opening of schools, the health of our children, the use of masks as well as parental obligations and responsibilities within the whole process. We covered a lot of ground and terrain in the interview, some of which I would like to highlight here.

Masks and the school environment

It has been proven that under the current conditions and circumstances, masks alongside physical distancing are of utmost importance to deal with this dangerous virus. It came as a surprise to Carew that here in British Columbia where I am residing, masks at the current moment have not been mandated in schools, but they have been considered optional. Carew agrees with me that masks should be indeed part and parcel of safety procedures and guidelines for all schools.

In a school setting, anything that is considered optional will often be viewed and translated as not being necessary and will most likely not be followed or acted upon. Both Carew and I are concerned that where freedom and choice are allowed and permitted on the matter, there would be a growing culture of peer pressure and discrimination against the mask-wearing children; those students who are conscious, aware of and concerned about their health and are closely following recommended safety guidelines and protocols could be facing bullying and discrimination from others.

Carew stated in the interview that since this is a respiratory disease, the simplest thing to do is to wear a mask to protect oneself from it, but by giving people a choice in the matter, there is the danger of having a “mask caste system” where some choose to follow the suggestions, while others do not. That being said, we ought to keep in mind that children often choose to disobey rules unless those regulations are strongly enforced and reinforced by the authorities, but good and effective modeling alongside a culture of hygiene that includes regular hand-washing and sanitization protocols can also go a long way.

Yet to my concern and alarm, teachers and principals at my son’s elementary school, are not wearing masks, and moreover, they are not physically distancing from their peers, something I have personally witnessed on different occasions. They would go out in groups to pick up meals and would generally continue life as if there was no threat of a pandemic around them. If the teachers, the supposed role models, are not following the rules, then how could our children possibly be safe with them.

This is an important point to consider because we are, under the current circumstances, not only entrusting staff and teachers with the education of our children; we are putting our children’s lives in their hands. I then ask myself how many of those teachers will indeed follow through with those guidelines set out by the authorities; how many of them are taking this virus seriously and also how many would be influenced and guided by dangerously ignorant, irrational and anti-scientific thoughts and ideas? If you think that this virus is overblown or exaggerated, or worse, a hoax, then you should not be in the public education system in the first place.

But the problem is also what Carew refers to as a “patchwork of non-leadership” since there is no clear national or state mandate, and each local school district is forced to deal with an exceedingly difficult situation, and they are not provided with much direction. 

Since both teachers and parents have such a strong desire and want for normalcy, many are trying to pretend or bluff their way out of this virus when all their decisions should be led and guided by the advice of health officials. Normalcy, whether it is about children going back to school or about parents going back to work, would have to wait for a while longer, or at the very least, it would need to be modified by new but stringent sets of rules, conditions, and circumstances to ensure and protect everyone’s health and well-being.

 

The role and obligations of parents

One of the best pieces of advice that Carew gave on the topic of parents was to get involved in the process. This whole situation affects us parents first-hand and whatever we do, we must keep in mind that the safety of our children is our responsibility, and it is indeed in our hands. It cannot be merely and blindly delegated to the government, school board, or medical authorities, but it is our commitment and obligation that count in this matter and should guide and lead the process.

Although governments, medical authorities, and school boards claim that they are acting in the best interest of our children, this is simply not true. They all have their own interests in mind, and they have their own agendas. This is not meant to blame them nor should we disregard them, but we must remember that their decisions are going to affect the health and well-being of our children in the midst of a pandemic that is unprecedented and the effects of which are still largely unknown. 

It is a comforting and pleasing thought that our children will not be touched or affected by this virus, but this is simply not true. The hospitalization or death rate may be much lower than the elderly or those afflicted with underlying conditions, but it still puts our children at risk. You do not wish to be the parent of the unfortunate child that got gravely ill or, God forbid, succumbed to this disease.

I understand that the authorities are trying their best, but we cannot let them decide for our children under these volatile and constantly changing circumstances. Our children are not guinea pigs and neither pawns nor experiments. They are our precious beings, and they are our lives, and we as their parents are responsible for and in charge of their health and safety.

When authorities speak of the cost of implementing adequate safety rules or the social, emotional and mental costs and potential drawbacks of keeping them away from school, we must tell ourselves that the state of their health is always more important, and we should not lose even a single life to a preventable disease. 

To ensure our children’s safety and that they are not merely treated as businesses that can be opened and closed at will or as guinea pigs, we must get involved and become vocal in the process. We must stand up for our children’s rights by contacting school boards and by putting pressure on elected officials. We have a choice, a voice, and, more importantly, the power to make ourselves heard. Currently, in my province and unlike other provinces as well as states in the neighboring south, students are mandated and expected to attend school in person.

Unlike in Carew’s state of Arizona, we have not been given a choice of online/distance learning. We also have not been given a choice to apply for medical exemptions due to health and safety concerns of our children, of ourselves, or of both. The option of opting out of the public education system and instead applying for homeschooling is not fair nor warranted under these extreme conditions. I believe in and support the benefits of traditional schooling provided that our children shall find themselves in a safe learning environment, which is unfortunately not the case here and is currently not guaranteed under the circumstances.

What can we, the concerned and caring parents, do to alleviate or change that? In its simplest form, you can sign or add your name to petitions. As more and more people realize that their opinions and concerns matter, we will be able to shape the conversation and steer it in the direction that is not merely in the best interest of schools and businesses, but that of our children. 

In British Columbia, we have been able to change the mask policy regarding public transit. After petitions, the authorities are going to make the wearing of masks on public transit mandatory. So yes, we can make a difference and bring about change.

Testing at schools

One of the simplest forms to ensure safety from the very start and of starting with a clean slate is the use of tests. I am not talking about assessment and evaluation of our students, which I think should be adjusted, modified or even put on hold for the time being until everything goes back to normal, or in Carew’s words, we should cut the students some slack; I am referring to diagnostic health tests to find out if a person, a staff member, teacher, or a student is currently afflicted with this disease, and hence actively contagious and a threat to others.  

We hear that the costs would be high to implement testing across the board, but it is in the best interest of everyone, our children, teachers, and staff to ensure that everyone is free of the virus from the first day onwards. It does not presuppose or guarantee immunity, but it is an important and necessary first step to take alongside other rules and safety precautions, such as mask-wearing, physical distancing, and ventilation.

This virus does not follow the regular health and illness patterns that we are accustomed to when compared to other diseases. We cannot spot the novel Coronavirus easily as we have witnessed with many asymptomatic cases that remain highly contagious. It is not enough and, in fact, a misnomer to believe that if you have no symptoms, therefore you must be healthy. 

It is not enough to advise that one should stay home once one feels sick. It is only testing that will guarantee that the person in question is free of Covid-19. In the interest of everyone’s safety, and most importantly, your child’s security, please consider adding your name to this petition initiated by Carew himself: protectourkidsnow.net, which can put pressure on making tests part of regulated health and safety processes.

It is in numbers that our voice will gain momentum and weight. Let the government and school authorities know what your priorities are and that you will not let them decide for you or for your children. In this situation, testing on its own will not be enough, but it will be an important part of the process, especially at its initial phase.

The other problem and complication, apart from asymptomatic cases, is that one does not seem to build long-lasting immunity from this disease. Although you may have contracted the disease, you may in fact be able to get re-infected. This makes testing, that is knowing who at any moment of time has the current virus, so paramount, and with that information in hand, the school authorities can take positive action and prevent and save others from getting infected or re-infected.

 

Vaccines and the way back to normality

This situation is not going to go on forever. Both Carew and I firmly believe that it is only a matter of time that there will be not only one but various approved and effective vaccines available. If you choose to keep your children at home or school them from home, or if you enforce these stringent and at times uncomfortable or inconvenient health rules, such as wearing masks and staying away from others, tell and remind yourself that it is only a temporary issue and condition.

This is not going to be the new normal for the next years or decades to come. We must have patience and be compliant with these sets of precautions until we are finally safe and free of this horrible disease. And then, everything will go back to normal, the way it used to be and we will appreciate to be back in the good old days where our children can freely play with their friends, while we get together with friends and have a drink or two whilst cheering to each other’s health.

In the meantime, before things get worse with the looming and impending second wave, it is most important to get the flu shot, so complications as well as mutations of the virus can be reduced or kept at a bare minimum. As always, safety is key and what matters most here.

 

The Covid Legacy

Flash forward to the future, the moment when Covid is going to be a memory of the past as you will remember and look back to the crazy days of confinement, mask-wearing and physical distancing, and you will be asking yourself, what role did I play? What were my contributions? What was my legacy in all of this?

Did you merely wait it out, kill time and wait for it to be over? Did you suffer and complain endlessly? Did you pretend it never happened and carry on with your regular life and routine? Or worse, did you protest against the wearing of masks, against the supposed and merely temporary infractions and restriction of your liberties? Did you make a big deal out of trifles while trifling with the inherent threat and danger of this virus?

Or did you stand up for what you believe in, your health, the health and welfare of your fellow beings while protecting your loved ones and shielding your children from harm? Did you withstand the unjustified scorn of the ignorant by doing the right thing? Did you accept the temporary financial sacrifices and those of leisure and movement for the common good and for the health and benefit of your family and your loved ones? Did you act and do what was in the best interest of everyone?

What will your legacy be in all of this, Carew Papritz the acclaimed author of The Legacy Letters wants to know?

You can access the podcast here via Apple Podcast: Schools, Parental Choices and the Covid-19 Legacy with Author of Legacy Letters Carew Papritz.

On Your Own Path of Healing: Book Review of From Burning Out to Burning Bright

The body and mind are more interconnected than we think or are fully aware of. This nagging suspicion and fervent belief of mine have found substantial support in the medical sciences as well as in the field of psychology. One of the eye-opening books for me in this regard has been neuroscientist Suzanne O’Sullivan’s book on psychosomatic disorders entitled It’s All in Your Head, which proposes that various health conditions and diseases are caused by and rooted in psychological factors.

Even in the current medical setting, the power of the mind over matter is becoming more and more prevalent. I was pleased to hear that research by Elvira V. Lang, founder of Comfort Talk, has demonstrated that the use of self-hypnosis, often merely soothing words of comfort, can effectively affect pain management by reducing its occurrence and strength on acute-care patients. The influence of the mind over the body has been known for ages and it has been a thorn in the medical sciences, mostly via the effects of placebos, those innocuous sugar pills that in some patients can elicit the same response as certain medications or treatments.

In this age of self-awareness and self-consciousness, we know for a fact that words not only matter but that they can sting and hurt us as well as others. Seen from another perspective, if words of hatred can bring about pain, should we not utter words of love and kindness to each other since they can soothe, aid and potentially even heal and liberate us from pain and suffering?

Some months ago, I had the opportunity to discuss such a holistic view with registered nurse and gemstone and diamond therapy practitioner Jennifer Marcenelle. Our hour-long interview, which turned into a pleasant and informative conversation on health and wellbeing has been documented on my blog previously. Yet now I have had the pleasure to receive her recently published book From Burning Out to Burning Bright, which arrived with a personal and signed dedication by the author.

Although there are a few things we did not see eye to eye on in the interview – and some of them reverberate as well through her book – there are two things to consider. On one hand, there is a significant agreement between us when it comes to the importance of mental and emotional being and its correlation with health as well as the importance of leading a healthy life. I could not agree with her more on the fact that burnout is the outcome of a hectic and busy lifestyle that drives and feeds on chronic stress and negativity.

No amounts of pills, medication, alcohol, or drugs can possibly deal with the void, damage, and devastation that a life of chronic stress brings about. We need to find an approach that does not merely look at or treat the body in isolation but that takes into account the whole person and being - their thoughts, emotions, feelings, perception, and perspective. It is not just the job, the employer, the manager, the co-worker that causes one pain and heartache, but it goes much deeper than that as it has deeper underlying roots and causes.

The second point is that people are unique and different; as a result, they have different needs and requirements. What works for me may not exactly work for you. If diamonds and gemstones can have a therapeutic effect on you, whether it is based on science or it is simply a placebo effect, matters little here as long as it actually works for you. If your faith can strengthen you to deal with illness or stress, then it shall and so be it, and who are we to interfere with that.

One of the things that Jennifer often reiterates in her book is that everyone has their own belief system and that we should respect that. It is not a matter of converting or convincing the other of aligning themselves with our own viewpoints. There should be no hidden agenda nor manipulation when it comes to healing. We want to discover what works best, but the overall aim and purpose are always the same: health and wellness.

In the past, Jennifer was driven by ambition and a constant drive for success that took a substantial toll on her health and wellbeing. In the corporate world, which often uses greed, competition, and envy as a catalyst, there is no respite. She found herself, not unlike many of us, without support or comradeship. Everyone is striving and battling to get to the higher rungs of the ladder, while some may even lack scruples along the way.

In Jennifer’s case things got even more complicated because she was working within the health sector, which radiates and generates its own source of stress. Yet one of the most heartbreaking experiences for her involved a young mother who was awaiting a heart transplant.

The ailing mother received an experimental ventricular assist device, but Jennifer alongside all the other nurses knew in advance that it would not be of any help or assistance. Despite the health of this young woman gravely deteriorating, up to the point of her becoming comatose and her body mummifying, Jennifer’s superiors did not want to halt the use of the device; they wanted to keep the patient alive as long as possible so that the device could obtain FDA approval.

Using human beings and their suffering, let alone the continuous pain and the constant suffering that the patient’s husband and child had to go through, as a pawn for one’s own financial gain is beyond unethical. It is inexcusable and inhumane, and it served as a catalyst for Jennifer's decision to cut ties with the corporate world of greed and ambition. As Jennifer herself puts it, sometimes it takes something powerful and/or awful to bring out and about the best in us and put us on the path of healing.

One of the things, she realized is that the sacrifices she made and the stress that she endured for her work were just not worth its salt. Although it was important to help and serve others as a health practitioner, the business-minded and -oriented hospital system, the management, and administration did not have the best of their patients and employees in mind. In fact, the system was driven by political and economic incentives, for the most part, brought about by what is commonly referred to as Big Pharma.

The physical but more important emotional toll on her body showed and expressed itself in the form of burnout or a complete standstill and breakdown. The catalyst was not only her work nor her harmful outlook and attitude towards her employment, not only her envious and conniving colleagues and co-workers as well as her own flawed perception of what constitutes ambition and success, not only her own experiences of a noxious childhood promulgated by a toxic mother, sisters, and family environment, but rather a combination of all those elements involved.

Healing, as she puts it in her book, is a lifelong journey, and it needs to be approached in a holistic manner. She gives many examples of how this could be achieved, but as always, it depends on one’s own personal preferences and dispositions. Yet one thing is for sure: There is no magical pill or prescription to fix or set this wrong straight, but we must understand and realize what is causing and driving these issues, the root problem.

It is often tied with the concept of knowing oneself, knowing what makes one tick and to try and experiment with various methods to find out what works best. It is a trial-and-error process until we find the best method for ourselves, but most likely, it will be various modalities or a combination of tools that will help us advance on the path of healing. We can align ourselves with the Holy Spirit, or any spiritual force that you deem important in your personal life and/or culture, we can engage in and practice psychoanalysis, or any other means and methods you feel is appropriate to get you to understand and know yourself better.

The problems one has are often psychosomatic in nature. Many erroneously assume and believe that psychosomatic symptoms are not real. That is far from the truth. Psychosomatic disorders mean that there is no underlying organic and physical cause of one’s condition. It is caused by an underpinning emotional issue. This does not make it any less real, but it helps us focus on the cause in a much more concerted means and effort. In such situations, medication would have about the same effect as placebos, so it shows us that we could easily dispense with the harmful secondary effects, side effects and potential addiction that tend to be the unwanted outcome of certain types of medicine.

If gemstone and diamond therapy will work for you despite the advents and caution of science, then so be it. It is important to remember that neither I nor Jennifer recommends such methods for underlying organic causes although you can at any time combine them with scientific and medical treatments, be they in addition or in complement to medicine or surgery. In fact, research in Positive Psychology by Martin Seligman has shown that people with a positive outlook are not only healthier and live longer (by about eight years!) but they also have stronger immune systems, less inflammation, and fewer infections, and that they generally recover more quickly from wounds and/or diseases, whenever that is indeed possible.

As I expressed in my conversation with Jennifer in our phone interview, I am not too familiar with but also somewhat skeptical about gemstone and diamond therapy. I also do not have any first-hand experience or knowledge of Reiki, acupuncture, energy healing, or the use of spiritual guides. For those methods, I can only say, if it works for you, then that is great; if it does not, feel free to discard them and find other methods that could help you more.

Yet my stance on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and its offshoots are a bit clearer as I have more knowledge as well as personal experience about this field. In fact, there are limitations to cognitive-behavioral methods, which neural linguistic programming (NLP) is part of and which is discussed, to some extent, in Jennifer’s book. She claims that it is important to ‘update our mental software’ to help us move in the right direction.

Although thoughts are certainly of importance, and one can reframe and train one’s brain in significant ways due to certain inherent flexibility, often referred to as neuroplasticity, it should not and could not come at the expense or neglect of emotions. The underlying problem here is that most of our harmful thoughts are stored in the unconscious and are not at our disposal or retrieval at the hands of consciousness.

In Jennifer’s case, her burnout was facilitated by feelings of anger and resentment that she herself felt but also absorbed from others, and this caused significant damage to her health and body.  It was also driven by the need to live a life in service of others, of being subservient to the wishes and expectations of others. This was only exacerbated by a toxic work environment, which she compares to an IV drip of poison.

These traumas often have their beginning in childhood trauma. In Jennifer’s case, it was because of her toxic mother, who herself was projecting her own childhood traumas of being a daughter of an abusive alcoholic, Jennifer’s maternal grandfather. Jennifer’s sisters coped with the same stress in different and more harmful manners; they used drugs and alcohol as an escape from their pain and suffering.

Childhood trauma, in Jennifer’s words, creates a disruption to our subtle bodies, the energetic aspects such as meridians, chakras, and the aura, and becomes stored in the body. Our body is, in essence, a “multi-dimensional system of subtle energies” that can have its chi/ki or vital energy flow become congested and blocked. This would reverberate and be felt in each of the distinct seven chakras, which are essentially designated wheels of energy that can stop flowing and lead to potential health problems.

There are two observations that I found of great interest here. The first one is that the most profound part of a person, our highest self, is deep within our core, which is why mystics keep telling and keep reminding us that to find yourself, you must go deep within. The second observation is about the crown chakra. When children are born, their fontanel is soft because it is conceived as the “door in which Soul enters the newborn’s body at first breath.” As a result, in baptism, the water symbolizes a way of keeping open - or rather cleansing - this chakra of the newly born.

The other point, I would like to mention is karma. We usually think of karma as either positive and negative and that basically, our actions would result in reactions charged in either direction. But I was surprised, yet pleased, to learn of a third and even higher distinction, namely the neutral side of karma. Essentially, karma itself has a neutral position. It is not meant to be personal, but it is a kind of scoring system that objectively rewards and punishes us, each according to our own.

But neutral as opposed to positive and negative karma means letting the universe take its course without influencing it too much with our wishes and desires. It does not mean that we should not do good or become indifferent or insensitive to human pain and suffering but rather to do everything in moderation. Neutral karma is indeed the middle path where our actions are undertaken for no other purpose than the greater good of all. It is not about telling the universe what we want or asking for things from the universe, but it is about being receptive and grateful for what the universe gives and provides us.

This is often harder said than done. For instance, Jennifer’s oath as a nurse to help and serve her patients might lead her to try too hard for a patient to recover, but that would be an infraction of the law of non-interference, a kind of mental pushing or wanting things that are not always possible. That would in its turn create more karma. Although the intention is good, it is not the highest form of neutral karma, of letting things, as well as our lives, are and run their course. We must keep in mind that death is the eventual destination of everyone’s life.

While karma tends to balance things out and, in Jennifer’s words, always pays its debts, it can also serve as a powerful tool to help us grow spiritually. In fact, we have the power to choose – even when at times it does not feel like it – and we can always act and break karmic patterns, no matter how harmful or entrenched they may be.

To do so, we must change our mindset and lifestyle in significant ways. We need to first off accept the fact that we are not perfect and that we are here to learn. Healing in a holistic way will help us become whole and that means we would need to find a way of releasing and unlodging unwanted negative energy, thoughts, and feelings alongside our chronic subconscious negativity, the triple feeling of being controlled, deprived, and rejected.

We must also forgive ourselves and follow our hearts, which is not the same as merely following one’s emotions. This takes continuous and persistent work and effort. Jennifer says it may include months of work with various modalities; I think it might be a matter of years to fully recover, but it is more than worth it.

In fact, in modern society, this situation becomes more pronounced because of a general lack of self-care. When people talk about me-time, it should not be only about going to the bar, the spa or getting a mani-pedi or facial, but taking time out to reconnect with oneself, the person one truly is deep inside.

You cannot love others if you do not love yourself first. You cannot forgive others if you do not first forgive yourself. You cannot love God, or anyone else if you do not love and accept yourself first. Whatever path you choose to take, if it takes you to yourself, your higher self, essence, or soul, then you are on the right path to healing and to becoming whole.

 

 

Race, Policing and Police Brutality: An Interview with Dr. Terrell Carter

This week, I had the pleasure and privilege to talk with writer, activist, pastor, and community leader Dr. Terrell Carter on issues of ethnicity, racial discrimination, and the police. Dr. Carter is a true Renaissance man (notwithstanding the personal thoughts and opinions of his teenage daughter) since he is not only all the epithets described above but he is also a professor, an artist as well as a former police officer.

It is the latter point that especially sets him apart from many of his peers as we can learn a lot from his experience, outlook, and status, all of which make his point of view more balanced and calibrated. This is accentuated by the fact that he himself is an upright citizen and this is something that I personally gleaned and realized from our hour-long one-on-one conversation.

Currently, I am in the process of reviewing one of his earlier books – Walking the Blue Line – which deals with his personal experiences of being a colored police officer, and I was immediately impressed with his stance of neither defending nor demonizing the police.

I concur with this view. Although my context and life experiences are very different, I used to espouse the romantic Ivory Tower ideology of viewing all forms of authority as a threat, an unconscious rebellion against the paternal figure, but when I had the opportunity to work with police officers, my views about them changed in many ways and aspects.

Part of my rebellion stemmed from fear and a general lack of contact with the police (I have had, fortunately, no specific negative experiences or trauma to speak of) but a figure dressed in an imposing uniform tends to instill more fear than respect. Yet once I got to meet these officers of the law outside of their uniform, in plain civilian clothes, I saw and realized that police officers are no different from the rest of us. They have their troubles, worries, and concerns, they have a sense of humor – believe it or not - and they have their differences.

One of the more worrisome aspects of the current anti-police movement is its either/or and black/white perspective. The protesters tend to oppose all police officers and fail to distinguish those who are upright and decent from those who are jaded, corrupt, and downright racist.

This is one of the things that Dr. Carter learned and realized first-hand as he was serving in the police force. The problem in many cases was not the individuals but the police system itself. Policing does not start off with the mission or ideology of helping others or even serving communities; it is mainly based and intent on catching and apprehending “bad guys” or perpetrators.

It is hinged on a worldview that wants officers to punish those who commit crimes, and in fact, those members of the police who do good by avoiding conflict and violence find themselves at a significant disadvantage. This is because the system runs like a business, and you would basically receive commissions on making arrests be they drug busts or felonies; once you have various arrests under your belt, you would be promoted.

Put differently, if you fail to do so, if you do not fulfill your quota, you will not have a chance to advance in your career. If you wanted to help and serve your community – the noble intentions of many who engage in this profession in the first place - you would have to do this on your own time, meaning it would go unpaid and uncredited, although that is what the true aim and purpose of policing should and ought to be.

My question for Dr. Carter was why there is so little time placed on de-escalation techniques, and the answer became apparent during our conversation. The police are seen basically as alpha males whose intention would be to escalate situations so that they can make arrests. De-escalation would be considered effeminate or too feminine. But the accent should lie on avoiding conflicts not flaming or encouraging them, and we should see the police more as officers of peace than one of force and enforcement.

Another issue that compounds and complicates the whole process in the United States is access to guns. As a police officer, you would constantly live in survival mode and you will be dealing with bad guys on a daily basis. This means that not only is your view of humanity influenced and biased in a negative way, but you might also build and harbor negative stereotypes or prejudices against certain groups or segments of society. A police officer’s mind has been primed to see the negative, and they might project this into ambivalent situations or even their daily life and context.

Again, this is not meant to excuse or defend their actions nor the various cases of excessive and unnecessary force, but it is meant to encourage a better and more empathic understanding of these situations. As Dr. Carter put it, many people start off policing as upright and decent beings, but the job and the working climate make many of them jaded and corrupt. In fact, it is easier, let alone professionally more rewarding, for a good person to go astray and be swayed onto the wrong path, of becoming bad and corrupt than to stay the course.

Why did decent folks not stand up against those rotten apples, the corrupt and sadistic members of the force? Why did no one step into the fray and stop the evident violence and police brutality occurring in front of their eyes; why did no one denounce and expose wrongdoing? Is it because of comradeship and camaraderie?

Dr. Carter’s answer was yes. You had to trust your partner in dangerous and life-threatening situations. But when he himself denounced the practices of one of his colleagues, no one wanted to partner up with him as they deemed his action a transgression against the unspoken but implicit code of police conduct. By standing up for your principles and other people’s rights, you would become ostracized and would be called a snitch. As a result, Dr. Carter decided to quit the force.

This ties in with many issues that plague administrations and governments on all their levels. Although there is corruption, we are asked to turn a blind eye and accept and go along with it. The moment a person exposes wrongdoing, the whistleblowers tend to be attacked by the establishment when they ought to be celebrated and promoted for doing the right thing and for actively tackling corruption. Honesty, integrity, and truthfulness tend not to be encouraged by higher-ups or the government; worse, whistle-blowers tend to be reprimanded or punished for speaking out and standing up for truth and integrity.

Although police officers have and will be charged with crimes, they often receive protection from the law. In many cases, we have seen that the victim would be blamed for their actions, whether it is running away or pulling out a wallet. It is hard to fathom what kind of cruel and inhumane pretext will be given for the slaying of George Floyd, but the legal system must ensure and enforce that justice will prevail and that there is no favoritism involved; that justice is indeed blind to differences by equally applying the rules to all and everyone without exception.

What ought to be done in these important, historical yet volatile times where protests abound and where the streets are in turmoil and the citizens enraged? There is a documented history of wrongdoing and police brutality. There is a long list of victims who have been mistreated and killed by the police.

But the mistreatment goes back further in history with the abominable and inexcusable practice of slavery, the atrocious fictitious narrative that it is allowed and permitted to treat fellow human beings as property. It shocks me to hear that even today there are people in government who espouse the view that slavery was a “necessary evil.” It was certainly evil, but in no way and under no pretexts was it or could it be necessary.

Slavery can not be conceived of or brushed off as a mere case of educating and civilizing the colored people - terms that are inherently troublesome on their own - but it was the forceful and violent repression of human rights and of human dignity. It is sad and heartbreaking that there are traces and vestiges of this view still operating in modern American society. The acceptance of ethnic mistreatment and the fact that it is allowed and permitted to occur and re-occur is an example of the blind spot of race and democracy in the American system.

What we need most is a restructuring and reformatting of society. Protests, according to Dr. Carter, are a way of inconveniencing the other. It is forcing people to face what is a reality in American society and politics. It is nudging them to feel awkward about what is currently happening and to have an open, uncomfortable but necessary and liberating conversation about race and ethnicity in the United States. It is not about erasing the past but facing it and bringing it into the open and to have an honest and open dialogue from and with both sides of the fences.

The trauma is there, and it has been festering for centuries. But here is the chance to overcome it and to build bridges. The goal is not and should not be a further entrenchment or deeper division but rather a bridge that connects us to each other. It is not about seeing the others as enemies but trying to see them holistically, as human beings deserving of dignity, respect, and most importantly, empathy. At the same time, it is important to tear down fences and defenses, to expose the lies and manipulation, and, in the words of Eddie Glaude, to tell the truth with courage, commitment, and love.

Hence, protests need to be done mindfully. We must keep in mind that this movement is occurring under the ominous threat of a virus that is endangering many lives. We also need to be aware that during protests, there will be a lack of access to education; all those who are on their way to schools and universities will have their roads blocked. Finally, it will also cut off access for those that need medical attention, whether it is due to Covid-19 or other conditions.

There is more than one way to achieve awareness and change, and sometimes one needs to resort to forceful means to get the point across. In my view, there should be a balanced force of yin and yang, where Malcolm X represents an aggressive stance of forcefully and vocally demanding and obtaining what one is rightly due but also not to forget or undermine the more “feminine” side, symbolized by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., where compassion, peace, and love are meant to guide us towards the ultimate goal of harmony.

This is not straying too far from the Christian analogy since the end goal of Jesus was to reach harmony and peace, but he was fully aware that sometimes one would need to pull out the sword to that effect. I am an intrinsic pacifist, but I think that conflict is necessary to reach true and lasting peace. But I do not think that we need a violent revolution, and I oppose any forms of anarchy.

As a writer, I think that the best way to change minds and to reach understanding, empathy, and harmony is through writing. The pen is mightier than the sword. Although protests will leave an impact on people, writing can touch and affect them in more lasting, intimate, and profound ways. For instance, we should let ourselves be guided by the warmth and wisdom of James Baldwin; he may have looked physically frail, but his words were potent and ripe with themes that equally transcend and harmonize potential racial differences.

Diplomacy can be enforced through strong, forceful, and purposeful words and actions, but we need to make sure that the path ahead and forward is clear and that we get to the place we are aiming for. It is not sufficient to have had a colored president in office. Yet with our zeal and desire for change, we do not want to reach a point of disarray nor let the promising movement be swayed or hijacked by and for political means and ends.

The final goal or destination goes back to the still unresolved but possible and feasible dream that Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had, that one day everyone will live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character. That day could indeed be another step closer, while in the hopeful words of James Baldwin: Hope is invented every day.